Which Street Are You On?
"Life Is All About Perspective."
-My Late Father, Harry James Chororos
Harry James Chororos was an investor and entrepreneur whose patents and work made significant contributions to the field of occupational health. He volunteered his time and was on the board of the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, the Suncoast Communities Blood Bank and the Sarasota Citizen Volunteer Program. He was an acute promyelocytic leukemia survivor 10 years prior to losing his battle with glioblastoma brain cancer on September 8, 2011. He was 58-years old. He leaves behind his wife, two children and his surviving parents.
While my Dad was alive, in every choice, adversity, and crossroads I ever encountered in my life, I could always count on a few simple, yet befitting words of advice - often in the form of a question. One of these was, "Which street are you on, Christina?" I'd let out a sigh hoping it was a rhetorical question. It never was.
So, I ask you...which street on are YOU on in your chronic pain story?
I ask this and encourage you to take the time to answer this honestly with yourself because it's the very real difference between you being a victim or victor in your own life story.
It's the difference between you sitting in the driver seat ...or being a passenger in the only life you have.
Life coaching, in general, is based on the principle that you, the client, have the intrinsic ability to determine and achieve your goals...which is just a fancy way of saying, you are the authority in your own life. Together we are going to close the gap on where you are vs. where you want to be. As a chronic pain coach, I will support, guide, encourage and arm you with tools you need to get to where you want to be...but...you will have to do the work. I can't do it for you. I can only do it with you.
And, in order for you to commit to doing the work, you need to have had your "Kairos moment" - in other words, you need to have decided that now is the time, the opportune time for when conditions are right in your life for the accomplishment of a crucial action. You need to have decided that the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of changing.
And, in order for you to commit to doing the work, you need to have had you "Kairos moment" - in other words, you need to have decided that now is the time, the opportune time for when conditions are right in your life for the accomplishment of a crucial action. You need to have decided that the pain of staying the same, is greater than the pain of changing.
Most people assume that you need to have directions as to where you're going if you have made the choice to sit in the driver seat- which, more times than not, prevents people from choosing to sit in the driver's seat. What if you take the wrong turn? What if you get lost? What if you end up in unfamiliar territory?
Sitting in the passenger seat certainly takes the responsibility off of you...but then, you're at the mercy of where the driver (or, life in this analogy) wants to take you.
In actuality, you just need to have decided you're going to drive. I will be your GPS to get you heading in the right direction. Or...gentlemen, brace yourselves....we can always stop and ask for directions.
"I walk down the street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in.
I am lost. I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It still takes forever to find a way out.
I walk down the same street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I'm in the same place! But it isn't my fault. And it still takes a long time to get out.
I walk down the same street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I still fall in. It's a habit! My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.
I walk down the same street. There's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
I walk down a different street.”